finding my voice

Finding My Voice: The Problem, Articulating Myself

finding my voice


The other day my husband and I were having a conversation about the “Day Without Women” protest that was taking place that day. He asked me my opinion and I gave it to him because well, I’m not one to turn down a chance to give my opinion. Then he asked me to explain the reasons I felt the way I did. Now in my head, I had intelligently, eloquently, and somewhat passionately told him why I viewed things the way I did.

But instead, I really said something along the lines of this, “I personally believe that women are able to do so because, uhmmm, some people out there in our nation don’t think we should I believe that our, I, education like such as uh, South Africa, and uh, the Iraq, everywhere like such as, and I believe that they should, uhhh, women equality over here in the US should help all women, uh, should help women in South Africa, it should help the women in  Iraq and the Asian countries so we will be able to build up our future, for us.”

(This isn’t exactly what I said, but it’s pretty close.)

It reminded me of this lady, remember her:


Guys my answer was bad, so bad that my husband didn’t even know how to continue the conversation, he just stood there looking at me like this, no lie:

finding my voice

I felt so dumb, even I couldn’t salvage the conversation.

This incoherent babble comes out of my mouth usually when I feel like I’m being put on the spot, which usually happens when I’m asked to give my thoughts on something, even if that something is a subject I’m knowledgeable about or interested in. I instantly turn into a flubber mouth.

But, why does this happen? I mean I’m an intelligent woman, capable of expressing myself. Why is there this disconnect between my brain and my mouth?

I’ve been noticing for awhile now that because of my flubber-mouthiness, a lot of times, I keep my thoughts and opinions to myself for fear of sounding like an airhead if I’m asked to elaborate on my position.

Flubber-mouthiness is the reason I don’t talk a lot on the phone, that and the fact I loathe the sound of my own voice.

God is setting me up for great things, this I know in my heart, and being able to articulate my thoughts and feelings is a necessary skill. I have to work on this. I mean, how am I going to tell the good God has done in my life if all my words run together? I don’t want to leave people scratching their heads after I give my testimony.

One thing I do. Know for sure is that my God is bigger than this problem. I can and will overcome it with His help. If He used Moses, who stuttered, I know he can use me too, flubber mouth and all.

Do you have any tips or techniques to help me articulate myself better? Comment below.

May God be with you until we meet again.

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