Celebrating Black Fatherhood: Kevin Dingle
Every day as I scroll through my social media feeds, I see beautiful black fathers engaging their children with sport, video games, music, etc., and I want this side of black men who are black fathers in the limelight. So, I reached out to a few of my social media friends to be featured for the JTMG Celebrating Black Fatherhood series. This featured father is an Instagram friend, him and I went to high school together. Just seeing him and his son on Instagram and the fun they share brings me joy and I want to share them with you.
Kevin Dingle and I went to Henry Snyder High School in Jersey City. I had transferred in my senior year. He was this skinny quarterback who was funny as hell. He wasn’t disrespectful or disruptive in class, but when he spoke, he was going to say something that was going to make you laugh. Fast-forward years later, when I saw on social media that he had a son, my first thought was his son is lucky because his father is a riot.
Kevin told me that he use to party a lot, like every weekend a lot, and why not, he had no responsibilities, but fatherhood changed that, “once I became a father, I stopped partying and begun caring about my future because I had a responsibility to give my son the best,” he says.
Kevin and his son like to have as much fun as possible talking about cars and wrestling, and broadening their minds watching the Discovery Channel together.
One thing I’m learning doing this series is that children don’t need big, over-the-top activities to spend time with their fathers, it’s the simple things that mean the most to them, and fathers have a way of making ordinary activities big, and over-the-top away.
Respect, he says, is the one thing he wants his son to learn, respect for himself, everyone and everything. Fatherhood taught him to be a more loving and humble person so he can be an example to his son. When children are young they learn by watching. Parents have to lead by example and “stop the do as I say, not as I do” motto that some of our parents’ threw at us. Children nowadays know too much for the saying to be effective anyway.
I asked Kevin, like I asked all the men featured in the series, what they want the world to know about black fathers, he says, “I want everyone to know that black men are loving, caring fathers from all walks of life, who only want to best for their children.”
Thanks, Kevin, for helping me change the narrative on black fathers.
If you are a black father and you want to be featured on JTMG Celebrating Black Fatherhood, or if you know a black father who should be featured, email me at lea at journey to my greatness dot com, put black fatherhood in the subject line and I’ll send you the details.
May God be with you until we meet again.
Quotes may have been edited for clarity and brevity, but the idea remain