JTMG Celebrating Black Fatherhood: Jamal Swift
Hey guys, I’m sorry for my absence, I am in the process of moving so I’m busy downsizing and packing. With the process of going through all my family’s belonging comes moments where I find myself walking down memory lane. I find myself holding up one of my boys old tee shirts reminiscing when I bought it and they had to grow into it, now, if one of them were to put it on, they would bust the seams. Or I’ll find an old photo and go back to the day the picture was taking.
Experiencing nostalgia is so easy to do in this day-in-age, and I have been feeling quite nostalgic lately.
Did I tell you guys that tomorrow is my birthday. Yup, my birthday is on Father’s Day this year. And it’s a big one too. At least for me. If God allows me to wake up tomorrow I will have lived half the time God has promised me. So I’m in a celebratory mood.
And speaking of Father’s Day and celebrating, I want to tell everyone about JTMG Celebrating Black Fathers next featured father, Jamal Swift. Jamal is a brotherfriend of my husband, and they go back a long time, like, since middle school. Their friendship goes far beyond shared history and stories of day past, their friendship has made them brothers. When it come to men in general, their male friendships are treated as comical and immature interaction between either oversexed or undersexed men. When in fact men are capable of true friendship filled with trust, deep regard, respect and crisis support. What might look silly to us woman, may be just how men relate to one another.
My husband doesn’t have any biological brothers and neither do I, so Jamal is the closest my children have to an uncle. When my daughter was born Jamal was one of the first people to see her in the hospital. When my first son was born he was the first person to visit him. I remember when my daughter was two Jamal and my husband taking her to Chuck E. Cheese. Whew, how time flies. But I told y’all I was feeling a bit nostalgia.
Fast-forward so years and I learn that Jamal and his beautiful wife had a baby. Jamal says holding his daughter was amazing with a great sense of responsibility.
My boys just adore Jamal. In my house, whenever my husband announces that he is going to see Jamal house, for the next ten minutes my boys beg him to go too.
I love the sense of brotherhood they feel with one another.
Jamal speak on the importance of spending quality time with his daughter, He says, his daughter world revolves around him thus she demand times spent with him. “Seeing her progress and grow provide true purpose to me,” he says, “she make the minute things fun, I cherish the small moments in the day.”
He says he want the world to know that Black fatherhood exist, “don’t believe everything about the mainstream message about Black fatherhood. Black fathers are here” he says, “this is a tough job, it scares me to death, and I love it.
As long as his daughter is independent, have free time to explore her interests, and have the will to make her own decisions, she will have learnt what he hope to teach her, and hopefully these are lesson my children, especially my sons get to learn from their Uncle Jamal.
Male bonding and male interaction is different then how women interact and bond with one another. It’s way more than adolescence hijinks and booze filled nights. Men learn valuable lessons from other men. Just as women draw strength from other woman, men draw strength from one another.
Surround your children with positive male figures — the male perspective is so value in life. My daughter will always have her father for advice from the male perspective, but my boys, they will have a circle of men they can seek counsel who they can trust and have their best interest at heart. Their Uncle Jamal is one of those men.
I am so blessed to have a village of black men looking out for my family.
If you are a black father and you want to be featured on JTMG Celebrating Black Fatherhood, or if you know a black father who should be featured, email me at lea at journey to my greatness dot com, put black fatherhood in the subject line and I’ll send you the details.
May God be with you until we meet again.